so....i was on facebook and saw a post by a guy tht sed "Females say they want a guy to be real with them but in actuality they cant handle it"..
and reading the comments that followed,i had to blog about this one.if ur a guy and u agree with this statement thn there is no way you were bein as "real" as u thot u were.most young guys are notorious for playing with emotions without bein aware of it.females would love for men to be real with them but first,we'd like for men to be real with themselves.you cannot expect to get into a relationship with someone and hope that they dont fall for you.if that was the case,you should keep it strictly friendly.by talkin to a woman,flirting,complimenting her..."chillin" with her,ur setting her up to believe theres a possibility of the two of you atleast becoming official.men dont realize that as real as they think they are,they tend to lead women on bcuz everyone knows the chase is more fun than the prize.when men can be real about wat their motives are wen they get involved with a female,then maybe females can be satisfied with a "real man".women can handle realness wen its provided 100% of the time...but for a man to decide to be real wen he feels like somethin aint workin anymore is wen women cant handle it.and the fact tht sometimes a man bein "real" is really a man being afraid of being close on a deeper level than just sex or intimacy or watever is also a key factor in how some men dont kno wat real is.bein real is setting boundaries for urself and stickin to them.bein real isnt always tellin a gurl...he i dont love u.or hey,i like ur ass but...thts about it...bein real is bein real to URSELF first.by tellin urself.."i jus wanna hit this and thts about it...i dnt want her to be my gf"...tht could throw a red flag up like "hey!dont do it!ur motives are all rong!"by doin tht small self evaluation,u could up ur realness to a tru 100% becuz bein real includes not only wat u say,but wat u do and how u behave urself.dont be kissin on a gurl u dnt really wanna be with and thn tell her u dnt like her like tht and say she couldnt handle the truth bcuz she may have been able to handle the truth if it was honestly given to her in the first place....so wen a man can be real with himself is wen he has the right to say that women cant handle the truth...and THAT is real!---deena--
LOVE THIS!! I totally agree with u about the men, but(I knw sum ladies aint gone like this) but just as much as the dude should keep it real....so should the chick. Some women urk me whn they're sooo sad and depressed(that's normal) after they find out that ol boy wasn't feelin them like that...truth be told; even if the man dnt say it, a lady knws wht the play is whn the game start(unless she's just super clueless)
ReplyDeletethats very tru.aot of females now a days are focusing too much on wat a man can do for thm and get attached too quickly.so i guess in both cases ppl should start bein real with themselves and take a minute to step out of the emotional part of a relationship and ask themselves if this is really wat they think it MIGHT be...and if not,be able to detach themselves before they fool themsleves into believing they're in love.
ReplyDeleteI agree when you said that guys only start to b real when they're trying to break things off, but honestly, i believe that guys already know after a few conversations with you, what you are going to be to them. If the few times a female has spoken to a guy it's been sexual jokes thrown in and flirty eye contact, then its obvious that he sees her as a sexual being who he most likely wants to (gasp!) have sex with. If that type of exchange has happened and the girl wants a comitted relationship with the guy then she's setting herself up for disaster. On the other hand, if the few times a guy has spoken to you, you've put him in his place if he said something inappropiate (tryin to see how you'd react and therefore how he would treat you) and your convos have substance and he STILL wants to chill with you or go on a date, then he most likely looks at you as relationship material. Girls have to recognize the power of the tongue.Unless someone knows you really well, what we say defines us in that persons eyes. N guys AREN"T gonna be real for a reason...they know thats what we want and THEY want what's between our legs, soooo they're going to ACT as if they're "real" ("o i dont lie, lies always come to light") to get what they want. That's all what it ties down to. So they're doing it on purpose ladies. I guess SOME guys HONESTLY dont know that they're leading a girl on when it hasn't been their intentions, but most of the time, guys do..
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